What Fear Can Teach Us

FEAR, something which has been on the negative side of each and everyone’s life. It has been taught since our childhood that if you fear, you are weak. It has been implied in corporate world that in an interview if you admit to fear, you are rejected. Fear has been cornered out and has been neglected for generations not knowing the power and the lesson FEAR can teach.

Fiction writer and novelist Karen Thompson Walker talks on TED about the connection between fear and imagination.

We all know what it is like to be afraid. Fear is a kind of unintentional storytelling that we are all born knowing how to do.

Fear forces an individual to come up with an imaginary story about the outcome if the same had come true. At the same time, Fear also gives you options and possible alternatives, not to overcome but to ignore the situation. Now the good part is one can go ahead and choose the option to ignore the fear and move on. And the bad or worse part is, WHAT IF THE FEAR COMES TRUE, which will happen once in a while with everyone. Walker suggests that we can control our fears. We need to look at fear in the form of stories. With our highly imaginative minds, instead of avoiding our fears, we can read into our fears as we posses the powers to turn our fear into motivation.

Karen also points out how most of the successful entrepreneurs have reached a point where they presently are today. And one common thing they all have is, they have faced their fears. Now any brave man/woman can face fear. But only successful people learn study and are ready with a plan when the fear strikes.

Coming back to our point WHAT IF FEAR COMES TRUE. One should make the a wise and correct decision as there is very thin line of difference between being Brave and being a Stupid. One has to think not in a way the danger that’s visible on imaginary front of alternative, but practical solution of the issue. In this way, it enables one to be prepared for something which he/she knows would be facing. Fear has the power the let us down badly or take us to the heights one would dream of. It’s just the right choice one has to make.

FEAR teaches us, keep us prepared and ready more than anything we face in our daily life. We need to transform our fears into something more productive, and perhaps even profitable!

Adora Svitak: What adults can learn from kids

Child prodigy, Adora Svitak, at TED Talks rightly said that the world needs “childish” thinking: bold ideas, wild creativity and especially optimism. Kids’ big dreams deserve high expectations, she says, starting with grownups’ willingness to learn from children as much as to teach.

Grown ups have been in the state of mind and thought all these years and still counting, that they know more when compared to their kids, which restricts kids from doing what exactly they had in mind. Kids at their age have no boundaries when it comes to exploring creative and innovative ideas and it is the adults sometimes who put brakes thus halting the creativity and the confidence that the kids previously had on the same subject. This limits the scope of imagination and sets boundaries in children. Kids have no limitation on their confidence. Most kids at their age might have also tried counting stars and it is the Adults who stop them by saying “It’s time for bed”. You never know, the kid might have completed the star count by the end of night.

On a serious note, there are many things which Adults can learn and try to compare and implement in real life when it comes to decision making and many others. When a kid sees an opportunity, the decision being made to attain the goal is not only bold but they take an optimistic approach. Because unlike ghosts in closet, kids are not scared of failure. One can just slam the door by simply saying that as childish behavioral way of approach. Instead grownups must try and listen to kids and allow them to teach their way. When Adults try and learn from kids, this enables them to teach back exactly what a kid is required precisely. By doing this a kid will teach and learn from tomorrows kid.

One has to not only agree with the statement made by Adora Svitak, but also try to make it reality in shaping tomorrows Adults, Leaders and most importantly teachers.

What do babies think???

It was 3:30 AM, just 2 hours since I hit the bed to sleep, when an annoying noise woke me up to reality. I had just fed her a couple of hours back, changed her diaper and, even sang her a lullaby. Now she is up again to start a new day while my earlier has not yet come to an end. For a second I felt a bit annoyed, but the moment I looked into her beautiful big eyes I melted down.

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Then she smiled at me and touched my face gently with her soft little hands. This made me wonder as to what was she thinking.

“What do babies think?”

This is a question that must have hit everyone’s mind at some point or the other but has always remains unanswered.

Recently I Watched TED talks on “What do babies think?” and was really amazed to hear Allison Gopnik talk. This video was quite illuminating for me!!

She talks about how smartly babies engage every sense and spend every moment discovering, adjusting, analyzing and acting on information (schema) about how the world works.

We always thought babies to be irrational and illogical but that’s entirely wrong. Babies are smarter that we can possibly imagine. They know more, learn more, and experience even more than we do. They are the cutest, most innocent yet most intelligent and the most powerful creatures.

But how do they learn??

When a baby steps into this world, the only person he knows is the Mother. For the first few weeks his world is his mother. This first bond the baby forms is the deciding factor of his future relationships. If the mother is able to meet all his needs (Goodness to Fit), he develops a positive working model of the world (Internal working model). This provides him with a secure feeling that in turn helps him to better think and fit into this world. It is the parents who have the first impression on the baby, shaping him and his brain. With good Parenting Style a baby with bad temperament can be turned into cool temperament.

After bonding with parents, baby becomes ready to explore the world, form new bonds and learn from everyday experiences. These everyday experiences develop his brain and profound understanding of the world.

Early childhood is a critical period in the babies life, as most of their learning occurs in this phase. During this period if they get all the love, warmth and support, they develop into a fine human being; on the other hand, neglecting and abusing them makes them vulnerable thus hampering their development.

At the end I would say that parents should let their babies grow, learn, experiment and develop into an individual human adult and not be overprotective. Babies don’t demand expensive toys to learn and grow but, they demand focus and attention in order to thrive.